Today you are one step closer to a new you where you feel empowered and on a positive path to growth and well-being.
I am a cognitive behavioral therapist with a solution-focused strength-based approach. My goal is to help you uncover your true potential and lead a life that is worth celebrating. While we can't change difficult situations of the past, we can work together to better understand and resolve challenges in your life going forward. By applying complementary therapy approaches and techniques, we will unearth long-standing behavior patterns or negative perceptions that may be holding you back from experiencing a more fulfilling and meaningful life.
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I provide therapy for individuals and couples struggling with chronic worry, over-work, over-scheduling, and other stresses that often accompany city life. I work with parent(s) and child, siblings or friends in conflict or family estrangements where, for example, a grown child refuses to see his parent(s) or in cases where a daughter or son-in-law and the parent(s) have a difficult relationship or may even have broken contact. I work with you on relationship issues, including how to speak with someone who matters about a topic you know that person doesn't want to discuss. I could work with you to overcome sleep disorders, like insomnia, that could be a cause or symptom of disturbing mental health issues.
One may have a longstanding pattern, so ingrained it feels like a part of personality. However, it may be a habit of behavior and habits can be changed. For example, some people 'always' lose their temper when angry and others bottle up their feelings and each person thinks, "Well, this is just who I am." However, no matter how automatic and long-standing these reactions, they are habits and habits are learned behaviors and can be changed.
Some, who blow up in anger, will seek help. Others, who bottle up anger, often seek help for depression, feeling 'stuck,' and so on, rather than anger. However, both individuals struggle with how to express anger or frustration effectively. They may not express how they feel because of concern about hurting another or risking a friendship or relationship.
Saying, "I avoid confrontation so I don’t have a problem with anger,” could be a sign that you bottle up your feelings. You may not be happy with your reaction pattern but do not know another way. I’m here to help you with options that may be more satisfying.
I developed a self-soothing, de-escalation and assertiveness program that allows you to de-escalate in real time and get a grip on the emotional flood that could affect your behavior. It give you an alternative to lashing or acting out or else bottling up or shutting down in the moment. The program provides a path for taking time to digest what occurred and then determining how you want to address the issue.
I provide techniques for helping you become aware and acknowledge when something gets to you, whereas you might ordinarily dismiss your initial feeling by thinking, ‘It’s no big deal.’ Once you accept your internal reactions, you can decide if you would like to address the matter with another person, and if so, when and how to do so. This is also about self-care and stepping back when you are overcome with strong feelings, so that you feel better. Being able to regulate strong emotions and spikes in anxiety makes success in all relationships more likely.
I call this process, ‘Anger Mastery,’ guiding you with methods of breaking self-defeating thought patterns, so you to develop a problem solving, forward looking mind-set setting you on the path of finding your own style of assertiveness. Please click on "Anger Mastery" or "Candor or Confrontation?," toward the bottom of the tabs on the left for more thoughts on these topics.
If you're looking for extra support and guidance through a challenging situation or you're ready to move in a new direction in your life, I look forward to working with you to guide you in achieving your goals.
Please call or email me for individual and couples therapy or anger management classes today.
My office is located at 425 East 86th Street in a pre-war apartment building between First and York Avenues (a bit closer to First). When you enter the lobby and turn to the left, you'll see Suite 1A, a waiting room, two bathrooms and a nest of offices. I will be coming out to greet you.
I will also be leaving a clipboard for you in the waiting room with my business card (for you to keep), a form that takes five minutes more or less to complete and a blank Insurance Claim Form in red ink. You could complete the insurance form after we meet, if not before.
I call this process, ‘Anger Mastery,’ guiding you with methods of replacing self-defeating thought patterns, with a problem solving, forward looking mind-set, setting you on the path of finding your own style of assertiveness. Please click on "Anger Mastery" or "Candor or Confrontation?," toward the bottom of the tabs on the left for more thoughts on these topics.